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WHEN IS IT TIME TO GIVE UP

They say everyone has a limit. They say everyone has a breaking point. What they did not tell us is when we can say, “hey this is my limit or breaking point.” Another thing that i think was forgotten and yet it was very important is a manual for relationships, by this i mean all types of relationships.

I recently bought a DVD player and alas it came with a manual and that made it very easy. in five minutes my DVD was up and running.

Imagine how it would be if human beings came with a manual or relationships were a gadget that came with a manual. I know it would be a dead life but i am allowed to dream right?

In life we face a lot of hurdles and as it is some leave us weak and make us wonder if it is worth it. Others leave us stronger than we were. But all in all, imagine how easy it would be if we had a manual for all this and more.

The year started on a high note but still there are extremes and it makes me want to break and say, AM DONE. But there is just that one thing that keeps you going and makes you think, hey i can do this. I can actually make this work.

That ray of sunshine that has been placed in your life as a constant reminder of just how sweet life can be, if only we look at it with a positive eye. Shit happens (forgive my language) but what we learn from all this is what matters. How we handle the issues in our lives is what matters. So as the year grows white hair, look at life with a positive eye.

Take it by the horns and move forward.

 

Njura Njeru

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Sticking to my Lane

I have a friend who works in a very racial environment. I mean whites stick to whites and blacks sticks to black kinda thing.

My friend is black and she holds the highest post in the office compared to her fellow black folk. She is a very friendly person and will go out of her way to ensure that she is in good terms with both her black mates and her white bosses. (The fact that i am using black and white in this article is actually breaking my heart. But there is a picture i am trying to draw and it needs to be clear)

She is the kind of person who will apologize without knowing what she did wrong, she is the kind of person who will go out of her way to maintain a friendship. Now, my friend is at the top immediately after the white bosses and she sits with her black folk and eats and chit chats with her fellow black colleagues. She refuses to see herself as their superior in whatever manner.

Recently something happened and she had a fallout with one of her black colleague. No blows were exchanged and no words were exchanged just hostility from her colleague. It got to a place where my friend decided enough is enough. She bluntly told her colleague, if i have wronged you in anyway please let me know.

That was the end of the friendship. Now point of my blog today.

My friend learnt a pretty hefty lesson from her colleagues. Sticking to your own lane. She used to go out of her way to make sure that her colleagues were well and that they faced no issues. If she heard anything from the bosses she would tell them. She thought that friendship to them is important. She realized she has been wasting her time and that there is a fine line between Colleagues and Friends and thus the phrase stick to your lane. It is very important to know where the line is. She is hurting because she thought she had friends but no, all they did was use her. But now she has decided to STICK TO HER LANE.

Njura Njeru